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Have you ever thought of what it takes to make someone want something? It’s not a question most women confront head-on. However, it is a question you HAVE to confront if you are in the dating market to find yourself a partner, boyfriend, husband or lover.

It seems like great salespeople are born to it. I know I, however, am not one of them, and most people are not. If you want someone to want something, then, what do you do? Do you try to talk them into it - convincing them that they need it? Do you just give it to them in hopes that they will pay for it once they find out they like it? No.

Think about a diamond for a moment. What makes a diamond valuable? Are they a dime a dozen? No. They are RARE. Their value lies in the act that they are not easily come by, and therefore, everyone wants one.

The fact is, you ARE a diamond. In order to keep yourself attractive and interesting to men, you have to think of yourself as valuable, rare and sought after. Think about it in terms of some precious item that you just HAD to have. Once you get it - you think it’s awesome for a few days, and then over time, it begins to lose interest. You have been satisfied; therefore, you are not making an EFFORT anymore to get it.

Once you HAVE the item you want, the allure of the item fades. The same is true in dating. If you let him “have” you too soon, then he loses interest in you a lot faster. The attraction starts to fade quickly if you are no longer giving him the thrill of the chase that men love so much.

So what you need to do to create attraction for your date is to think of yourself as a wild animal, unable to be captured. Most women, though, WANT to be captured! As funny as that sounds, to many women, the idea of being caught and “tamed” is sexy and alluring - they like the idea of the strength that represents for a man. However - if you want to keep HIM attracted, you need to lead him on a merry chase.

So how do you DO this? Well, start with the small things. First and foremost - don’t have SEX with him until you are SURE a relationship has developed. Keep in mind that for a man - having sex does not mean he loves you or is in a “relationship” with you by any means. So do not give it up until you have what you want from him.

Next, try to leave him wanting more with the little things. The next time you and he are really having a great conversation, end it a little early. Don’t wait until it naturally tapers off, cut it off before that. This way, he will be left wanting more - thinking about you and your connection, and anticipating talking to you again.

You can also do simple things like not answer the phone when he calls. Give him a few hours to stew in it, and then call him back. You are a BUSY, sought after woman. Don’t agree to the first date he suggests, tell him you are busy that night, but suggest a different night. Do you see what I am getting at here? You need to let him CHASE you.

Scarcity adds value - and you are a valuable treasure. The great thing is, these tactics can be used to attract a man in the beginning, but they can also be used to keep the attraction in the relationship alive and blooming after the newness has worn off.